Posts by concerned mama

Many of the things that the Watchtower suggests for avoiding blood transfusions do not address the issue of uncontrolled bleeding in an emergency situation .It can take time to get someone to a trauma centre and diagnose the problem and get them to an operating room. The hormone to stimulate blood production is erythropoitin and it takes TIME for (weeks) to make more red blood cells. It is all good and well for the WT to suggest blood expanders, but if the bleeding can't be stopped immediately, the blood volume can be expanded all you want, but as the victim keeps bleeding and losing cells,it ends up very dilute. The result is not enough platelets to stop bleeding and not enough red blood cells to carry enough oxygen.

The Emergency room specialist I talked to said that cell savers do you no good if you left your blood in a pool on the road.

"Artifical bloods", aren't blood, but some are made form cow's blood. They are artificial oxygen carriers. To my knowledge they are NOT APPROVED (failed tests on their safety and effectiveness) in the US and Canada. It would be better to use these than die from lack of blood, if you can get hold of it as a special release. (which also takes time to arrange). I personally would take a blood transfusion, no question, but then I've never been JW.

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situation,Hello everyone

by vampmonk in

hey ladies and gentlemen, im vampmonk (obviously) and im new to this thing... i just wanted to ask for any advice possible.

i'm an athiest.

i apologise forehand if this offends any one, but such are the decisions we make in life, but back to my situation.

concerned mama

Hi Vampmonk,

My teenage daughter had a JW boyfriend for 2 years. From what we have learned, I can tell you that if your girlfriend is serious about being a JW, the relationship is extremely unlikely to work. All JWs (male and female) are not supposed to date until they are ready for marriage. They aren't supposed to marry outside the religion, not date outside the religion, and are not even supposed to have friends outside the religion. (We are called bad association and are considered to be a bad influence even if you are the nicest, most moral person in the world). You are 16, are you not, and you know that is far too young to be thinking of marriage. If your girlfriend is baptized, then she must follow the rules much more strictly or she may be reprimanded by her elders and have to deal with some sort of shunning. Physical affection is very severely frowned on, and I don't mean just sex, I mean kissing or hugging.

Quite often people who are JW are not very forthcoming about all their rules, written and unwritten. To be quite honest, a lot of what she hears at the Hall is very insulting to everyone who isn't a JW (they are taught that anyone whos isn't JW is more likely to lie, chat, steal etc), so she may be reluctant to tell you a lot about that part of the Watchtower. I have saved all sorts of bit and pieces of information and if you want it, send me a personal message.

I understand that this girl may be really nice. My daughter's ex was, too. It just won't work right now as a dating situation, and a serious, marriage type relationship you are too young for and has enormous complications. It will just keep getting messier and more emotionally wrenching. Try to move on before your emotions get more involved and the hurts get bigger.

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Confidentiality at the Doctor/Dentist Office?

by blondie in

clash of religion, privacy creates difficult exposure.

bradford, michael

business insurance

concerned mama

Our business is one in which confidentiality is important. We have one JW employee, who works in a non-secure area of the business. She is an excellent employee, works hard, is reliable and is pleasant to her co-workers. Never the less, I have made sure that her manager knows about the Watchtower's, thus possibly her, attitude for privacy and confidentiallity, and we are careful which areas she works in and what information she has access to. I wish the situation was different as this woman is someone who we would normally liked to use in more sensive and responsible areas because of her excellent work.

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I am new to the board

by Pinned Blouse in

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friends

hello everyone, i am new to this discussion board.

my name is pinned blouse because once i was wrongly df'd and i no longer attended the meetings, i noticed all my blouses had pin holes in them where i fastened safety pins in them to make sure i was always "modest" lol.

mind you i do not have large boobies but i did not want to "tempt" the brothers.. .

concerned mama

Welcome to the board, Ann and PB.

Ann, this one is for you

http://members.aol.com/beyondjw/inlove.htm and please check your inbox (top left on this page).

Pinned Blouse, my condolences on the loss of your brother.

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Suspicions About 'Rich' Witnesses

by metatron in

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recently, i visited an area known for its 'healthy' congregations.

i spoke with an experienced elder about conditions.

he spoke glowingly about pioneers and not having enough kingdom halls.

concerned mama

Thanks, Metranon. That's very interesting.

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Daughter Dating DUB Update (Really Long)

by Corvin in

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this is an update regarding my 17 yo who was dating an unbaptized publisher, carl,18.

when he first began dating her i sat them both down and made sure carl understood that he was visiting the home of a df?d brother who also be considered by the society to be an apostate.

i gave him this direct info not wanting to encroach upon his conscience incase he was maintaining a good one, and incase he was looking to make progress in the jw congregation.

concerned mama

Congratulations, Corvin, well done! Thank goodness that your daughter has you.

So many non-JW girls get caught up with JW guys and have no one to help recognise the inconsistancies and manipulations. They know something isn't "right" but they can't figure out what it is and they "loooooooove" him. Most, sooner or later, get their hearts broken.

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Any science fiction freaks?

by myauntfanny in

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does anyone on here like science fiction?

i've read everything by all my favourite writers and am looking for some new ones.

any recommendations?

concerned mama

My favorite is Robert Sawyer. Really loved "The Terminal Experiment" and the Hominids Trilogy.

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Realist, On Israel

by Yerusalyim in

realist,.

decided to carry our debate out of the thread it was in if that's ok.. here's an interesting article by george will...take a read and let me know what you think.. http://www.thestate.com/mld/thestate/news/columnists/8464596.htmposted on mon, apr.

19, 2004. recognizing the mideast reality.

concerned mama

Avishai,

Yup, I agree with you.

If I was Jewish, I would want ONE country in the world where I felt the government would not turn their backs on me because they are Jewish, too. My daughter has many Jewish friends, and many of these kids have lost extended family in the holocaust. The threat of genocide remains very real to them.

I haven't read this whole thread, but I have to say that in my opinion, as an outsider, a non-JW, a lot of JWs and ex JWs do come across as anti-semitic. Not all of you, of course, I just sort of got a whiff of it.